Honesty

At Fri mtg the guy leading said. "I was always a liar".
I thought "no I was/am pretty honest"
He said "If you asked me what I had for dinner, I lied."
I thought..."no I never did/do that"
He said "I said whatever I thought you wanted to hear"
I thought.."I do that ALL the time....THAT IS LYING!!!"

I do try to make you like me by agreeing with you when I don't believe what your saying is truth! THAT IS LYING!!

I had a woman ask me to take her shopping for a new computer, set it up and teach her how to use it. She added "oh it will be so much fun". So I agreed when I didn't want to do it. Sure it won't be hell, it will be fun as I try to make most things fun but there are tons of MORE fun things I could be doing!! Of course, do I say "No thanks". No I said "sure" so she would like me. A few days later she asked me when we could "schedule the time to go shopping". And I am proud of myself. I did say. I was not available to shop. I wrecked it by saying the reasons why ..."it never goes well, the last lady yelled at me while demanding help". Of course since I was saying No to her, she freaked out. She started (almost yelling) telling me I had no right to "pre-judge her by others actions" "she wouldn't yell" and then she stormed off. She didn't get that yelling was just one example of what goes wrong when I DO THINGS I SHOULDN'T BE DOING. It proved my point for me. But of course I am mad at myself for not setting the boundary in a nicer fashion, for falling into the trap in the first place. [my fault as I said..I was bored and looking for things to do...which is true but things that help me I am looking to do...not things that help others]. Anyways now another person is running around AA and saying I am a bitch. But I did not take on another 10-15 hour project that I didn't want to do. Baby Steps and Honesty.
xox WR